Prepare your child for the path, do not prepare the path for your child — by Jessica Kramer, LCPC, NCC

One of the biggest complaints I hear from parents is that this generation of children seems to have an inflated sense of entitlement. The phrase “helicopter parenting” is a hot debate. Most claim that they are opposed to the idea of hovering over their children, yet many who are opposed to it are practicing it nonetheless and redefining it as being “protective” or “involved” or “connected” with their children, in fact it is teaching them to feel entitled to a pain-free existence.  Parenting consultation services can help parents sort out their own “stuff” from their child’s “stuff” which tends to get muddied.

It’s the hardest thing in the world to watch our children in distress, whether it is because they have rejected by a friend or because they are struggling in school. It is so hard for some parents that they have devoted their lives to making sure that their children do not experience too many uncomfortable moments, unfortunately what they are really doing is depriving their children of figuring out how to solve their own problems. Many parents do all of these things with the best of intentions behind them, they are making up for neglect that they suffered in their own childhood or feeling the pressure from other overly involved parents.

Parenting Consultation Services

My parenting coaching services are all based on the core philosophy that we should prepare our child for the path, we should not prepare the path for our child. When we prepare the path for our child we teach our children that the world will conform to their needs, we teach our children that they don’t have to develop the skills necessary to fit in with other people, we teach our children that they will be dependent on someone else to solve their problems for them. When we prepare our children for the path, we teach them that they are in control of their fate and responsible for their choices and their own happiness. That way they can grow up with less anxiety and become more responsible adults who take responsibility for their own actions. Contact me to learn more.