Do You Feel Like You’re Not Heard Or Understood In Your Relationships?

  • Are you experiencing communication issues with a partner, friend, or family member?
  • Do you have trouble expressing your needs and getting your point across?
  • Are you struggling to let go of relationship problems that you can’t control?

Maybe you’re dealing with a difficult co-worker, feeling misunderstood in your marriage, or experiencing conflict with a child, parent, or sibling. Perhaps you just don’t feel heard, acknowledged, or understood in your relationships. You might struggle to advocate for yourself and find yourself saying yes to things you’re not really okay with. Maybe you have trouble communicating in a way that isn’t overly forceful or overly timid—you feel like you can never find a happy medium. As a result, you might be thinking of pursuing relationship counseling. 

 

You May Struggle To Let Go Of Relationship Issues You Can’t Control

No matter what relationship you’re having problems with, you probably wish that you could get the other person to change. You wish that they would actually listen to you, respect you, and accept you for who you are.

Yet as hard as it may be, there is wisdom in letting go of things you can’t get from another person. After all, you can only control yourself. Once you accept this, it becomes much easier to work through communication difficulties and improve your relationships with others.

In relationship therapy, my goal is to help you deepen your empathy, increase your assertiveness, and learn the skills to resolve conflict peacefully. By doing your own relationship work, I’m confident that you will experience profound changes in your connections with others. 

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Everyone Has A Different Idea Of What It Means To Be In Relationships

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Most of us take this fact for granted. We expect other people to be on the same page as we are and share the same needs, values, and expectations. What’s more, we expect them to communicate in the same style that we communicate. When they don’t, there’s a feeling of talking around each other instead of talking to each other. It feels like the same arguments are happening again and again with no resolution. 

Additionally, there are many cultural differences we tend to overlook in relationships—especially in romantic relationships. Some cultures have very fluid boundaries and less privacy between members of a family unit. Others have very rigid boundaries and prioritize personal autonomy more. And when two people get married and their families are intertwined, these cultural differences can bring out a lot of tension in their marriage. This is why it’s so important to address disagreements early on in our relationships. 

 

Most Relationship Issues Are Solvable—No Matter How Hopeless They Seem

Many people are hesitant to seek relationship counseling. They fear that if they get guidance and the other person doesn’t, their relationship won’t change. Thankfully, this isn’t always the case.

If you learn how to change a dynamic, the other person is forced to change the dynamic as well. If you start communicating from a softer, kinder, and more authentic place, they have to adjust their response. They may resist at first, but if you are persistent, they may end up coming around and changing their communication style, too. And if they don’t, you will realize once and for all that the relationship isn’t fixable. This is why it’s always advisable to get support—a therapist can help you assess if your relationship is worth mending or letting go of. 

Counseling Can Help You Breathe New Life Into Your Relationships

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Perhaps you’ve thought about couples therapy or family therapy, but your loved one isn’t willing to come with you. If that’s the case, then I strongly encourage you to try individual relationship counseling with me. This is a chance for you to work on your relationship issues without the other person present. In some ways this one-on-one setting might be preferrable—since there won’t be a back-and-forth conversation, there’s more opportunity for you to dive deep and learn about your own relationship needs and communication style.

I offer counseling for people dealing with problems in their friendships, family relationships, romantic partnerships, and work relationships. Regardless of what your relationship issues are, I would be honored to engage with you on this journey of self-discovery and give you the tools to de-escalate tension, navigate disagreements, and relate to others in a new way.

 

What To Expect In Relationship Therapy Sessions

Counseling often starts by delving into the communication issues that crop up in your relationships. Do you tend to avoid asserting your needs and desires, or do you assert them too forcefully? Is there a disconnect between your communication and your actions, as if you’re saying one thing and doing another? These are questions that will inform our work together. We’ll go over the four main types of communication—passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive—and see which one you identify with most.

The long-term goal is to help you assert yourself and communicate more clearly. You’ll learn to improve your listening skills, set appropriate boundaries, and manage your expectations of other people. You will also learn to let go of what you can’t control. When you accept that you can’t change others, it becomes so much easier to regulate your emotions and navigate conflict peacefully.

Most importantly, I want to help you deepen your sense of empathy. Empathy doesn’t mean approval, but means putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and understanding that their view of life is based on their own history and experiences and won’t necessarily match yours. It means understanding that your partner—just like you—has their own needs, values, and expectations that may differ from yours but are no less valid. Through this process of acceptance, I believe that therapy can help you relate to others in a healthier way and breathe new life into your relationships.

You May Have Some Questions About Relationship Counseling…

Is it too late to work on a parent-child relationship? 

It doesn’t matter what ages you and your children are—at the end of the day, it is never too late to learn new communication skills and conflict resolution strategies. I believe that parents and children at any age want nothing more than to experience understanding, respect, and love between each other. So whether you’re a parent or an adult child, I will give you real-life tools for enhancing your connection with your loved one.

What if I have trouble letting things go?

First we have to define what it means to let go, since it means different things for different people. Letting go doesn’t mean you forget something happened entirely—if someone wronged you, a part of you will always hold onto that memory. Therapy can help you accept what happened in the past and commit to changing your response here in the present. You will learn to move forward and embrace a new chapter in your relationship instead of dwelling on old wounds.

What if I want to work on my relationship with my loved one, but they won’t come?

Then individual therapy for relationship issues is perfect for you! In fact, sometimes it’s actually healthier for only one person in a relationship to attend counseling. That gives them the opportunity to be fully heard and validated while exploring their relationship issues on a deeper, more introspective level. 

You Deserve To Feel Seen, Heard, Valued, And Understood

As your counselor, I’m here to validate you and accept you for who you are, giving you the courage to tackle your relationship challenges with ease. To get started, you can use the contact form, or call or text at 301-744-9299.